i wish mastodon/activitypub/whatever had a "no boosts" option, the option to turn off replies to a post (as in nobody can attach replies to it, not me not seeing their replies), and a "only show this to people I follow" option. the "followers only" option is fucking terrible
@aeva mutuals only shouldn't be too hard to add. People you follow have a problem of distribution. Of these, the non-mutual won't receive your note because they don't follow you.
About the replies, my first reaction is "it's hard because it's not under control of your server". But your post could flag a note as "reply from people the author follow" and if most major server softwares respect it, that's 95% less noise and you can simply block people who do pirate reply
@gkrnours i'm not worried about malicious servers, i can block those